For most of us, these impostor moments are transient — often most acute immediately after accepting a promotion, starting a new job, or entering a workplace in which our minority status is obvious. For some, impostor feelings become more pervasive and begin to hinder performance.
Harvard Business Review
The impostor syndrome is alive and well. Recently I asked the question who had experienced impostor syndrome. 86% said they had. Initially I thought it was primarily it was more so fixed to females. However, this certainly isn’t the case.
“I don’t deserve this”… “I feel like a fraud”… “I’m completely out of my depth”… “What are you doing, you’re unable”
In reality, these are 3 regular self-talk statements that whirl around in my already overactive mind. I don’t believe that I am alone, in fact I think I may be joined by 86%* of other people (* not a scientific number!!). Self-coaching really comes into play for me when the impostor syndrome starts to raise its head. Here’s what works for me:
- Is it true? (I stick with hard, solid facts)
- Is it really really true?
- Name it… it can be difficult to verbalise it. If I’m in a safe space with someone, then I’ll mention it. If not? My journal is my friend. By seeing the impostor syndrome thoughts in black and white, it helps to get the thoughts out and realise that they are irrational
- Affirmations. I am, I can, I am worthy of… These are all positive empowering words that once repeated consistently, the impostor syndrome can really be challenged… and rightly so!
The Inside Out Coach